“Meeting the girl of my dreams”, every man’s wish and vice versa for girls… in Egypt a lot of parents say for their kids “marriage is something and falling in love is something else”. Also they say “when you want to marry, marry someone loves you, not someone you love. If both came along will be the best” (Explanation; when you marry someone loves you, you will get all what you want and more, but when you marry someone you love, you will work so hard to please him without getting back the needed reactions) this in case love from one side. This is what I heard. I believe there are a lot more sayings in this subject.
As any other places, you never know when or where you will find your other half. You may find him at school, at work, at the neighborhood or one of your friends’ friend. Here in Egypt or in Arab countries –I believe- parents play big part in finding the other half for their sons or daughters. Usually mothers look for the best wife for her boys and fathers look for the best husband for their girls. I remember my mother asked me one time to go with her to meet some girl at her family’s house. This girl’s mother was a friend of a friend of my mother. Also one more occasion that is very well known for looking for the other half is the wedding parties. The invited women or girls dress as nice as they can because they know others may be looking at them and vise versa. I also remember that I was with my mother and my dear friend and family member Nancy (AKA Goldie) one time in my best friend Ahmed Samir’s wedding party and both of them suggested a girl for me, but neither one of them got my attention. In the last few years, after the internet became more used in Egypt. A lot of young people use the new technologies to meet the other half or to make new friends. We spent couple of hours talking all as friends. I remember we were five and later on Ahmed (Asmaa’s brother joined us). I and Asmaa did not talk privately or about anything in personal. My first imprison was she is nice, veiled, open mined, funny and has a nice shape. I also remember that I smoked one or two cigarettes just to show that I do smoke sometimes, not as I’m a smoker…
After this first meeting I heard that I’m too quite in her opinion. Later on after we came along together she told me that she was not going to join us after she saw me from a far distance, because I was not looking the way I should (which means; shaving, wearing nice classic cloth and so on). From my side, nothing really moved inside of me for her, but I said to myself to leave her door open till we meet again and spend together more time. Then nothing really happened between me and her except one call on the phone, and exchanging some regular e-mails. One day I replied to one of her e-mails and I got the reply right away, so I replied back asking her if she can chat on MSN messenger. She answered with yes and we started a new level of communicating. We started to chat almost everyday, then one day we were talking and she told me about some activities she is working on with a friend of hers that got my attention the rest of the day. She told me that she looks after some orphanage house. I asked myself all day if there is a girl cares about orphans and help them to have a better life, she must be good person. Then I asked her how can I help? She told me I can donate with money or with time of mine to go and stay with them and do something with the kids. I asked her to meet me to get the money, and this was the first date for us to set and talk alone. Of course she did not tell me she will be alone. She told me that she will come with two friends of hers, but I did not seem to be bothered at all. I also told her in this day “I think I found the girl I was looking for”, she played foul and asked me “really who is she?”, and I replied “the girl I was looking for is the girl I’m talking with”. Then we set the day, time and place for our meeting.
To be continued…
